Looking For Love Online

February 8, 2011 - 9:46 am 5 Comments

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I am marketing myself online. By Valentine’s Day, I will have been on three dating websites for 7 months, 10 days. These sites contain more information about me than most people would know after meeting me face-to-face. Why did I do this?

Last summer on the day of our national independence, I decided to declare my freedom and enter the world of dating after 20+ years of being off the market. One night I went out to dinner with my girlfriends and broached the subject. As they are all married, they excitedly latched on to the idea of being my “voyeurs,” so to speak. After looking through about 300 profiles, they choose the candidates they liked best and bam! All of a sudden this became very real.

My profile actually took the least amount of time to do. Within ten minutes, I wrote my story and posted my pictures. Hello, world. I am out there in dating cyberspace. Within hours I had men contacting me.  Maybe it’s the marketing mind in me, but I could not help critiquing their profiles. Now what do you do and why would I contact you without a picture?

Here’s the thing about marketing yourself online. I think it only works if you are real and honest. Someone once said that when it comes to online dating, you have to send out your representative. I dismissed this advice without a second thought when creating my profile. The last thing I wanted to do was project an unrealistic image of myself or pretend to be someone I’m not. Wouldn’t that go against the entire point of online dating to begin with?

The men I responded to were the honest ones, the ones that threw it all out there for the world to know. When I met these men for various coffees and dinners, they were exactly who they said they were. No surprises. When one man said, “I’m on Match to get off Match,” it struck me. When you meet great people who share similar interests, the likelihood of leaving online dating behind increases. You don’t want to be the “dream you,” but rather the “real you.” Now that’s how you market yourself online.

Screen shot 2011-02-08 at 11.42.59 AMTHE SKINNY ON DATING WEBSITES:

With all of the sites out there, it gets exhausting! Which one do you pick?

Match – This is a great website if you’re actively seeking out other people (although they do have an optional matching system).

eHarmony – Website matches you with candidates based on deep compatibility found in successful relationships. For a scientific approach, this is your pick.

Chemistry – With a very accurate personality test, Chemistry helps you learn more about yourself before you learn more about others.

Millionaire Match – Obviously geared towards the more financially stable bunch. If you’re looking for a millionaire mate, here’s the site. Warning: they do run credit tests.

Perfect Match – Uses the Duet Total Compatibility System to match the “whole you” with people who are similar to you or complement you.

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